STEP THREE: SIX SIGNS OF STRESS—AND HOW TO PERMANENTLY DEFUSE IT
By far the most insidious – and the most dangerous – sign of burnout is stress. Stress is what causes insomnia. It clouds your thinking processes and your decisions. Stress prompts you to eat unwisely (or not eat at all). Worst of all, it affects your health: All aspects of your health.
Prolonged stress operates on your brain similar to the way that post-traumatic stress disorder does: By flooding the mind with cortisol, the “fight or flight” chemical. In his article, “Chronic Stress Can Damage Brain Structure and Connectivity,” author Christopher Bergland goes on to discuss a study that proves chronic stress triggers stem cells to malfunction.
It’s pretty scary reading, and that’s before we’ve even gotten to what stress does to your body. More inflammation, bowel disease, chest pain, migraines, and other unpleasant health conditions go hand-in-glove with stress.
And stress is the twin of burnout!
It’s vital not to let yourself slide into a downward spiral. These sort of crashes happen when you say things to yourself like, “I’ll have waffles and syrup for breakfast. I’m tired; I’m down, I need a treat. I’ll start my smoothies again tomorrow.” You guessed it: Before you know it, your Magic Bullet is collecting dust at the back of a cupboard, you’ve gained thirty pounds, and you’re drinking coffee after coffee (ignoring your protesting gut) in a vain attempt to get some “energy.” Then the migraines start. Then the back-aches. Well, you get the picture. But we’re not finished with stress and burnout yet. Here’s what it does to your business!
STEP FOUR: WHAT TO DO WHEN SUCCESS KEEPS SLIPPING FROM YOUR FINGERS
A year ago, you confidently expected to be much further ahead in your business than you are now. You see peers race past you, but hey, they’re the cream of the crop -- the attractive extroverts blazing confidence.
But then the tortoises that used to be in your pool crawl out and get to the finish line. The coach who said she’d like to write a book “one day” suddenly publishes a whole series, while you’re still stuck at chapter three on yours. The brand-new coach asking you for advice last year launches a fifteen thousand-dollar mastermind event in Hawaii. The introverted competitor suddenly gets interviewed for Forbes magazine.
You try to squash down the thought that this is getting… embarrassing.
So, why does success keep slipping from your fingers? The most common reason can often be a massive schism between your ultimate dream goal and the daily actions you take. If you don’t realize that steps need to move you along the right path toward that goal, you’ll meander all over and never get any closer.
Here’s how to get past that particular demon:
1. Define your goal. Be specific.
2. Get in touch with your feelings about that goal as you brainstorm it. Your emotions are a reliable indicator of what is really going on with you. Is this goal really what you want or are you setting your sights on what is expected in your niche? If you are happy coaching only five clients a week and you don’t need more income (though of course, we all love to have extra cash) then stop beating yourself up for not being the next Oprah Winfrey, and start enjoying your life. Drop the endless chasing of more clients that causes you stress and procrastination.
3. Hold yourself accountable for what you are doing every day.
4. Be ruthless with your inbox
When you’ve made yourself accountable for not only every minute of your work day but also every task or activity you partake in during your work time, you will gain a stunningly clearer picture of how much money you are making or losing on activities and tasks (and procrastination). You will be able to see whether or not spending time writing articles for your website blog is really worth the number of site visitors you attract per week – or whether you’d be better off focusing on your Facebook Focus Group or buying PLR articles that you spend a fraction of the time tweaking.
This type of awareness not only breaks the cycle of wheel-spinning, but it also gives you a really clear picture of what’s essential and what is not. It gives you a clear view of your actual situation – and what you need to do about it.
Being accountable for your own time and business diminishes anxiety and helps you make decisions. Being responsible for your own time and business builds confidence and increases self-respect.
Next up, we will discuss (Step 5) "WHY YOU’RE STUCK IN DISTRACTION (AND HOW TO GET OUT) and (Step 6) "HOW TO GET BACK ON TRACK AND CLAIM THE LIFE YOU DREAM OF"
Much Love & Success Suzanne